The title sounds very simple and direct, it is also a very difficult thing to do especially if you don’t have the required talking skills to pull it off.
Sexting is also a gift and a curse, allow me explain this further. It’s a gift because you can use this to learn more the other person sexually, if they’re into the same thing as you, or even if they’re freakier than you.
If you’re the quite depraved person, you’ll love sexting. It can be a curse because it is done digitally, you cannot gauge the person’s reaction. If she is pissed off about the topic you’re veering into, if you’re bad at this, it can get you blocked and reported as spam and many other disasters can rain upon you.
Sexting has another huge advantage, some ladies may like this and others not so much. With enough sexting, your first date can also be the time you have sex, because of the onpoint conversations around sex that you’ve shared along the way.
For people who are enthusiastic about sexting but haven’t found the courage to do it, their excuse usually is “I just don’t know what to say”.
According to Tina Horn, a teacher, media maker and author of Love Not Given Lightly. She explains that it isn’t true about not knowing to say but rather not knowing how to say it. It could be that you want to massage her ass, or play with her boobs, or you love getting a sloppy head or whatever fetish you’re into.
What you want to do is in your mind, the words to string together to tell her is usually the problem.
You’re going to sound silly, but don’t worry about it
Sex like I have written before is an animalistic behavior talking about it also is generally unpopular but some guys have excelled in the art of talking about it, and making it sound like no big deal.
Sexting will make you sound silly for sure, and you have to get over that quickly. One thing about sex and people is that we love control, if you can let go of control then you’ll have a much wilder experience. During sex, a strong willed lady can become a shy princess who wants you to cum into her mouth , a shy guy can become a fearless lion in bed.
The advice here is for you to allow yourself be silly, and saying things you enjoy about sex. You’ll have to get your inner porn star to come out. Let your nasty mouth blossom, but watch it, make sure she buys what you’re selling at each stage.
The more you do it, the better you get
Just like every other thing in life, the more you sext, the better you get at it. Sexting is also delicate, you have to adequately balance both. One is telling her about what is sexy to you, and secondly, saying things she would love to hear as well. It’s sort of like killing two birds with one stone.
You don’t have to go full throttle at first, start lightly. For example, don’t go
“Would love to choke you from behind, one hand pulling your hair, the other one choking you”
She might be into it, but it’ll look like a leap. You need to work your way up to that.
You can start these conversations talking about kissing, making out, then you go for the intense one as she responds, if she doesn’t respond well to the soft cues of kissing and making out, then you can just stop it, before it can become an embarrassing situation.
Try statements such as
I really like kissing/making out, what about you?
These questions are soft questions that will give you a chance to know what she is into, and not embarrassing.
Compliment her and her figure
Everyone likes compliment, but it is also true that some people try to look immune to compliments, the reason why they’re lower the impact of the compliment is that it makes them feel good about themselves. You also have to be honest, don’t go for compliments that just aren’t true.
If she’s busty or endowed behind, don’t just throw it out there saying, like
“You’ve got big boobs! I love big boobs”
The problem with this is that some ladies may like it, but many more will find it offensive but rather phrase it around what she is wearing.
Instead, say something like
“That top makes your bust more prominent, you’re look so sexy in it”
Just a stylish way of saying that top makes your boobs look big, then more importantly wait for how she responds to it, if she is very receptive of the complement then you can take it a step further from there.
Just know sexting is all about your language.